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A Love Letter To Friendship

August 11, 2016

It was a brutal week for me and while typically I can easily spot the silver lining, I was finding it really hard to develop the negative into a positive picture. You brought me back to a place of calm despite the storm and practically spoon fed me poutine because you know that somehow that gravy-laden magnificence can make everything right in the world again.

We were both utterly exhausted (you were probably more so than I) but you stuck to our plans because you knew how much it meant to me.

You squealed with delight right along with me when I landed that gig.

You reminded me to keep going even when all I wanted to do was bury myself under the sheets, admit defeat and never try again. You reminded me that all the effort was worth it and that I was a better person because I put myself out there. You reminded me that you would love me all the same and I could see it in your eyes that you really, really meant it.

We danced like our lives counted on it and walked home arm in arm in the early morning sun.

You think I’m hilarious and witty and kind and brave. (I love that you see the very qualities I appreciate about you in me).

We cried together.
We prayed together.
We meditated together.
(All of which make you kinda uncomfortable but you did ’em anyway).

You always get the most thoughtful gifts.

You were straight-up when I asked for your opinion. You knew what was best for me and often know me better than I know myself. Gently shaking me out of my self-denial you unfailingly deliver the truth with kindness and respect.

You forgave me when I found it impossible to forgive myself. 

We don’t always agree or see eye-to-eye but that doesn’t stop you from supporting me because you love me for exactly who I am.

And you. My dear friend, you. I wouldn’t be the person I am today had it not been for you – had you not been a part of my life to remind me of everything that is good and pure and simply fabulous in the world. And for all this and so much more, I fucking love you.


Image by Brittany Connell.

In The Flow

November 20, 2013

I’m the first person to say that I do my best work when I’m in the flow. And I’m the first person to recommend that anyone I work with find their own flow. But what do I mean by that?

When you’re in your flow, time just passes. You don’t look at what you’re doing as work. You don’t feel like you just have to get stuff done for the sake of getting it done. You feel like you’re investing your time in something worthwhile and you reap the benefits. You enjoy the interactions you make with people along the way because the process and interactions feel good – encouraging and light. You want to go the extra mile to get shit done because you know you’re making a mark for yourself and your career or business.

Now mind you, I’m not going to say that every waking moment of work will be idealistic. There will be days when things are off and stuff gets thrown at you far quicker than you think you can manage. There will be moments when you just want to crawl back into bed and ignore the growing to-do list. But considering that we spend the majority of our lives working, you want the positives to outweigh the negatives the majority of the time.

Sometimes you have to create your flow. Sometimes it’s not the task at hand that gets you in the flow. Sometimes it’s the way you approach your work and the people you interact with.

If you can find meaning and satisfaction in what you do then you can find your flow.

If you can turn a negative situation into a challenge that you meet head on with a positive go-get-‘er-done attitude, you’re in the flow.

If you can laugh in the face of a screw up, that’s your flow.

If you can calm others when the pressure is high, call that your flow.

At the end of the day, you need to take charge of any situation and create a sense of pride and accomplishment in everything you do. Life is too short to not love what you do.