I was bumming around on Facebook the other day when I came across a post by one of my good friends on her blog. Daniela is currently engaged in a jaunt around the world, beginning in Asia, where she’s been able to let loose and really get to know herself again.
The post that caught my eye and stole my heart is about her time in Bali. I squealed aloud with glee when I read that her experience there has her convinced that she was a surfer in a previous life. (I’m hoping I do some good work in this life so that I can come back as a ridiculously spoiled and adored house cat the next time around, but I digress.)
As I read about this next stage in her journey, I felt like I was there with her. The salt in my hair, the sun in my eyes and kissing my skin, the sand between my toes. I was able to feel that way because she’s a fab writer and she set the scene but what she said also resonated with me because she reminded me of how I want to feel in my life.
Later that day, I was walking down Queen W, weaving my way through the typical downtown foot traffic and all of a sudden, got the distinct urge to slow my pace and look around for a bench to grab a seat. I wasn’t in a huge hurry to get anywhere so I thought, “sure. Why the heck not.”
It was when I planted my butt on a bench and took a minute to just breathe and look around that I recalled every detail of Daniela’s post but this time, I saw how it related to my version in the city.
I let myself feel the lull in the heat of the day, I sat back and squinted my eyes in the sun as I watched the world go by. I went with the flow of the moment and decided not to move at break-neck speed like everyone around me. Instead, I opted to find myself in the space that I was in. What Daniela’s post reminded me of was my feminine energy and how much easier it feels when I’m in that space.
According to Traditional Chinese Medicine and Taoism, the world is made up of two opposing energies – Yin and Yang – or feminine and masculine energy. While these are opposing forces, they are also complementary. They work together to create harmony and order in the natural world. A world that has only the masculine or feminine energy at play is a world out of balance.
I love the way that Rachel Jayne Groover interprets these opposing and complementary energies in her book called: Powerful and Feminine: How To Increase Your Magnetic Presence and Attract The Attention You Want.
Interpretative YIN – YANG table
Feminine – Masculine
Internal – External
Shadow – Transcendence
Mother Earth – Father Spirit
Nature – Culture
Feeling – Thinking
Intuition – Logic
Attraction – Assertion
Collective – Individual
Flexible – Rigid
Flow – Go
Process – Outcome
Sustainability – Peak Experience
When we tune into our sense of wonder for life, connection to nature, emotional charge, intuition, ability to be flexible and go with the flow, we tune into our feminine or yin energy. Now this is energy I’m talking about here – this has nothing to do with being a man or a woman, it’s all a matter of energy. So when I need to get shit done, when I have 5 minutes to get somewhere that should take me 10 and I have to hustle to get there, I tune into my masculine energy. When I need to approach something logically, assertively and expect to produce a specific outcome, I tune into my yang energy. And they both have a time and space in my life.
I for one though, recognize that I feel my best when I’m tuned into my feminine energy the most. It permeates my work, life, how I see things and how I interact with people around me. When I’m tuned into my feminine energy, I can see how I manifest things, how I feel at one with situations and outcomes rather than forcing a specific goal.
When do you feel your strongest? How can you bring masculine or feminine energy to the things you do to feel fulfilled and at ease with how you approach things? What kind of energy do you bring to your relationships to support your need and your partner’s need to express energy as both need to in order to feel heard, seen and understood?
Cheers to exploring how energy moves through your life.
Much love, XXX