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Personal Practices, Or, How We Retain Our Sanity

It recently dawned on me that I’ve let my beloved routine slide. Leading into the holidays, during, and after, I put the little things that make a big difference to my sanity on the back-burner. Starting my day with 40 minutes of yoga? Chucked to sleep in longer. A half hour meditation before bed to settle my mind? Replaced by iPhone surfing, a late-night movie or passing out early. The regular soaks in the tub with candles, a good book, epsom salts, and the occasional glass of wine? Easily dismissed for ‘more important things’.

It hit me though. All these routine things I do, I do because it’s part of my own personal practice – it’s the combination of things I know work for me. And when I’m not doing these things, I can feel it in every cell of my body.

I practice because sometimes I don’t love other people. Situations. Myself.

I practice because sometimes I find it hard to breathe and I know this is because I often choose to suppress my emotions for fear of ‘feeling too hard’ or ‘expressing too much’.

I practice because when I don’t, I feel lost. Bored. Like something is missing.

I practice because my thoughts can often get the best of me, pulling me in different directions and deeper into the stories I’ve created about other people. Situations. Myself.

I practice because movement is healing and breath is grounding.

I practice so that when I laugh when people say, “gurl, you look like you have your shit together”, I feel like less of a hypocrite because really…

Do any of us really have our shit figured out?

I practice precisely because I don’t have my shit together and if change is the only constant, how can we ever really know everything. Ever?

I practice because I’m doing the best I can and I’m a work in progress.

I practice because I often feel others’ anxiety/fear/anger/sadness and will often mistake it for my own.

I practice because I’m relearning. And learning what’s important happens when I’m less attentive to all the other noise.

I practice because I often forget the lesson.

I practice because repetition ingrains the lessons deeper into the cells of my body.

I practice because it reminds me of how much of this shit ain’t real. And what is.

Authenticity, Lifestyle, Spirituality, Wellness

Intentions, Wishes + Focus (Or Why I Don’t Make Resolutions)

The beginning of a new year can always inspire the possibilities of new beginnings and fresh starts. And while I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, I’m not a huge fan of the fact that we’re conditioned to think that we need to wait for a new year to begin to be a new ‘us’.

By all means, it’s important that we take the opportunity to look back over the past year and give ourselves a heavy dose of gratitude for all the good that came our way. The good we brought into our lives by pursuing our goals, stretching our boundaries and growing through it all – those things add up to make us who we are.

There’s magic in taking the time to recognize the places in which we can continue to stretch and grow. But I don’t think we necessarily have to wait for the calendar to turn to decide to make a fresh start.

So rather than set resolutions (that I’ve proven to myself to break time and time again) I prefer to look back over the year and focus on how I want to feel in the upcoming days, or months – recognizing that this is something I do fairly regularly to keep myself in-check and knowing that I can tweak whenever I feel it’s necessary, regardless of the calendar day.

And so, I thought I would send some intentions and wishes your way to get you thinking about what you want to feel, experience and move through over the next little while, knowing that you have every right to redefine, rediscover and reposition yourself whenever, however, and as often as you like.

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May you connect with the world around you, both that which you can see and touch, and the ethereal and intangible – whatever that may mean to you.
May you tap into that intuitive knowing that will guide your actions with authenticity, clarity, and in tandem with what will fill you up.
May you speak from a place of honesty, compassion and kindness – speaking your truth regardless of how it may be received on the other end.
May you move with love – love for self, others, and the world.
I wish you confidence, a strength of being that encourages you to be more and more of who you are in this world with every passing day.
I wish you creative endeavours and pursuits and the ability to dive deep into the things that will bring you pleasure and fulfill your desires.
May you know the light is present even in your darkest moments and may you find your feet solid on even the most shaky terrain.

I wish you love.

Authenticity, Learning, Lifestyle

Promise Me

Promise me that you’ll never stop feeding your sense of curiosity – that feeling you get with the very idea of inviting something new into your life that makes you partly excited and a little bit scared because you’re being stretched beyond what you already know to be true, what’s comfortable, stable and proven.

Promise me that you’ll treat yourself kindly. That you’ll refrain from judging, overanalyzing and condemning yourself for being yourself – regardless of whether you’ve made the ‘right’ decisions, took the ‘right’ step or made the ‘right’ call.

Promise me that you’ll take care of your body. That you’ll recognize that every time you do something kind for yourself, you say a small prayer of gratitude for being alive.

Promise me that you’ll always see the good in others – that doesn’t mean that you take other people’s shit – it means that you recognize that inside every cocky, overconfident and boisterous being, there’s a scared child who’s afraid to let others down for fear that they’re not good enough and that we’re all fighting a similar battle within ourselves.

Promise me that you’ll share yourself with those you love. That you’ll take a chance, open up and allow your truth to fall from your lips and into the lap of someone who sees you for who you are and loves you even more for it.

Promise me that you won’t ignore your soul – that feeling in the pit of your stomach that you need to pursue a dream or live a vision of yourself that others may not necessarily understand or agree with – that you’ll trust in yourself even when others appear to have given up.

Promise me that you’ll always remember that you’re not like anyone else and that’s precisely what makes you fucking beautiful.

xo

Authenticity, Lifestyle, Spirituality

Meditation For The Week Ahead

Feel your feet planted firmly on the ground. Imagine them rooting into the earth below.

Check in with yourself. How are you feeling? Where can you show yourself more love?

Get outside. Feel the air. The sun. The rain.

Move with intention. Practice presence.

Make love. Make tea. Make time. Make your own happiness.

Resist nothing. Expect nothing. Appreciate everything.

Breathe.

Take chances. Make mistakes. Let it go. Try again.

Breathe.

Be quick to move on when holding onto that grudge, comment or outcome feels too heavy to bear.

Smile. Laugh. Engage. Converse. Look ’em square in the eye.

Love without abandon. Love recklessly. Love yourself recklessly. 

Speak your truth – no matter how much your voice quakes or your knees buckle.

Listen to music. Dance. Sing.

Sit with the muck. Find the light.

Breathe.

Know your worth.

Ask questions.

Forgive yourself.

Breathe.